Online dating sites make it easy for singles to meet other singles who are searching for the same things in a relationship. It’s a fun and exciting way to meet new people and to get to know them better. Many people have met their husband or wife through an online dating site and many others have dated and had a lot of great times together.

After meeting someone and becoming online friends, many couples decide that it’s time to meet in person. When this happens you start making plans for that first date. Even if you know each other well online, it’s still going to be strange meeting in person for the first time.

This is where your relationship takes on the form of traditional dating and most people are very nervous to finally see the person they have been talking to online, in the flesh. On top of being so nervous, you worry about what you’re going to talk about. You want to make a good impression so you don’t want that awkward silence that often creeps up on the first date ruining the moment.

What do you do? Is there any way to ensure the date goes smoothly? How do you break that awkward silence on the first date if it does become a problem? Here are a few tips that can help.

Relax and Be Yourself

The first thing that you need to do is relax and just be yourself. If you’ve been honest online, you’ve got nothing to worry about. He or she obviously likes you just the way you are or they would not have agreed to meet you to begin with. In addition, they are probably just as nervous and worried as you are.

If you over think things it will make it more difficult to have a nice date. Just think about some of the things that you talk about when you’re communicating online. Then pick out some of the easiest topics that you discuss and bring them up if you reach a point during the night when that awkward type of silence creeps in.

Start Out Simple

Just because you’re meeting in person doesn’t mean that you have to complicate things. Start the night out with simple conversation. After the greeting you can talk about what foods you want to try if you decided to meet for dinner, which is always a good choice for a first date. After the food is ordered, talk about your job in more detail or even the weather just to break the ice. You can also talk about a movie that you really liked or your favorite TV show.

Don’t try to be too clever and come up with something dramatic. This is your first date, it’s not necessary. All you need to do now is to be polite, friendly and respectful. You’ve already made a good impression on the person or you would not have gotten this far, so just relax.

Be a Good Listener

Not only do you need to find things to talk about but you also need to be a good listener. Don’t interrupt your date when he or she is talking and don’t change the subject in the middle of a conversation. These things are considered rude but some people do it without thinking simply because they’re nervous. If you have a tendency of doing this, at least apologize for interrupting and you can even mention that you tend to ramble when you’re nervous. Who knows, it might give you another topic to discuss.

What Not To Say

Just as there are certain things that you should do and say, there are some things that you should not say. If you say the wrong things it can create the awkward silence that you’re trying so hard to avoid. Therefore, you need to know what not to say when you’re on your first date.

While making a few jokes can lighten the mood, don’t try to be too funny. This could be taken the wrong way, like you think the date is a joke or it could make your date even more uncomfortable. They may enjoy your jokes in private when you’re taking online but they may not find the same things so funny when you’re in public.

It’s also recommended that you reframe from talking about politics, ex-partners, anything sexual or any tragic events that occurred during your life on the first date. These are all topics that are very controversial, sad or upsetting. They are not something that you should ever try to discuss the first time you meet someone in person even if you have been communicating online.

Summary

Just about everyone is nervous on their first date and worried about what to talk about. No one wants to deal with that awkward silence that happens so often and most everyone is afraid of messing up or saying the wrong thing. It’s a natural reaction. This is something that you’ve been anticipating for awhile, it’s natural to be nervous. However, if you can just relax and be yourself, everything should be just fine.


Most people are pretty stressed out about dating and why not? Dating can be uncomfortable if you are new to the scene. Even if you are an old pro, dating can be intimidating depending on the circumstances. Even the people who have been single and dating for years struggle when they get a date from hell or an awkward situation to deal with. Every bit of help and advice you can find to make things easier is a good thing. Dating does not have to be a negative experience and you can even make the vast majority of your dates enjoyable. It is all about preparation and execution. Here are five easy dating tips for singles that will help to ensure your dates are usually home runs:

Commit to a better screening process

Perhaps no other single thing can ensure you a better percentage of good dates than this. It is amazing how people go out on dates with people they know nothing about and then complain about how they had a bad time. Not only is this dangerous, it is fairly ignorant. Find out about whom you are dating and get to know them a little for a change. This is one thing that we can take a tip from the old timers with…take some time to get to know someone.

The world today is full of all kinds of dangers that you simply can’t ignore. If you are going to play Russian roulette with your dates, then you will eventually get burned. Instead, you really should give yourself a specific amount of time getting to know people in a laid back setting. You will have much better (and safer) dates if you do.

 

Consider dating that “friend”

 

The story is a familiar one; boy meets girl and falls in love but girl thinks of him as only a friend. Eventually, girl realizes that boy is pretty awesome dating material but boy is already spoken for. Pain and tears ensue from there and suddenly Nicholas Sparks writes a movie about it. You really should consider that special friend and make certain they are not more. Those are the best kinds of relationships in the world.

 

Remember that honesty will keep you stress-free

 

Occasionally you will have to tell a white lie or two. Everybody knows that and most everybody gets that. The truth is, however, that even the white lies are dangerous. Consider for a moment the following scenario:

 

You meet a blind date for the first time and they are not your type in every single way. They eventually pick up on that vibe and ask you if you are attracted to them. You say no. They ask why not and you give them the typical, “It’s not you, it’s me” thing. What happens from there?

They walk away thinking they might have a chance down the road. You get unwanted phone calls which leads to more lies and eventual anger and heartbreak from the poor dolt.
Why not simply say, “I am not attracted to men with back hair that is longer than my head hair” or whatever the problem may be? You will have a moment of discomfort but no further contact after that. Which one sounds easier?

Open your mind to the online dating world

Most singles don’t even realize the incredible opportunities to weed out the bad matches that exist online. If you really want to streamline your dating pool and find the best of what is out there for you, then you should investigate online dating in all of its glory. They have online dating sites now for everyone and everything. The best part of this is that you can literally see what people like and dislike. The best online sites actually pair up and suggest dates that have similar characteristics.

In the world of dating, every single bit of help you can get is appreciated. Why not let the online world of dating help you narrow the search a little? The expense is very negligible and you can save a great deal of insanity by ruling out certain sectors of your dating world. Why date a smoker when you don’t have to? Why go out with someone that loves cats when you know that you are allergic? The online world makes things so much easier if you let it work for you. Give it a shot!

Never forget to consider what someone ultimately is looking for

 

It is amazing to me how people skip right over this vital part of any dating situation. If you want to go out with someone, but you know they are not looking for a relationship, you need to make sure you are looking for that same thing. Many people take a situation like that and assume that they can change the person or make them into what they want. This is a sure-fire way to ruin a date. If you know you are on different paths, move on to someone who shares yours. Changing someone is never a good thing on the road to true happiness.

These are only a few of the many dating tips that are out there to ease your dating stress. If you are dating often, using these tips will help you a great deal. The key is to look a bit closer at who you decide to date and using logic to decide who fits and who does not. Dating does not have to be stressful as we add most of the anxiety to our own situations.


After joining an online dating site and meeting someone that you want to get to know better, the next step is to start spending time talking to them online. This is how you will get to know each other to find out if you want to meet in person and go on a date. However, it can be a challenge to keep things interesting when the only way you communicate is online.

If you’re not careful, things can get very boring, very quickly. Since you haven’t met in person and you’re always communicating in the same type of environment, it can put a strain on the relationship. There are no outside distractions or anything to create an element of surprise in your relationship, unless you put it there.

Over time, you may fall into a rut and begin talking to each other in the same tone and you may even find yourself talking about the same things over and over every time you talk. This will get monotonous after awhile. It could even end what possibly could be a great relationship before it has time to get started good because you end up getting bored with each other.

So, how do you keep this from happening to your online relationship? First, you need to be aware that it can be a problem and don’t take it personally. Maintaining a long distances relationship with someone that you’ve never met in person before can be difficult. Therefore, instead of feeling a little hurt or disappointed that things are getting stall, make the effort to spice things up a bit. Here are 5 ways to keep your online relationship going strong to help keep things interesting.

One: Be Unpredictable

Conversations tend to follow the same routine after awhile. One way to keep things interesting is by being unpredictable. Talk about a variety of subjects instead of your day, how you feel or about work every time you talk. This mixes up the conversation and adds an element of surprise to your relationship. If you can’t think of what to say, try talking about something unusual that has happened in your life or in the world.

If you’re always serious, make jokes once in a while and turn your conversation into one about fun and interesting facts. That’s not something they will be expecting so it will catch them off guard and put some excitement back in your conversations. Variety makes things more interesting even if you just talk about silly things that have nothing to do with each other.

Two: Share Photos

Share lots of photos with each other and this will give you things to talk about. You can send a variety of pictures of yourself so you can get a good idea of what each other looks like and the things you like such as how you like to dress. However, you have other options too.

Find pictures of interesting landmarks in your state or of places you would like to visit one day and use these to start up conversations. It’s a great way to bring up some of the goals you have in life and what you hope the future will bring. This way, you can find out more about the other person in a fun and exciting way that is much better than asking them what plans they have for the future or what their goals are in life.

Three: Take Advantage of Chat Rooms

Many online dating sites have chat rooms where the members can gather together and get to know each other better in an online community. Usually, the environment is fun and entertaining and there are lots of people gathered in these chat rooms most any time day or night. You may have even met the person you’re talking to in the chat room and it’s a good place to spend some time now instead of just talking one on one all the time.

It’s nice to talk to other people once in a while and more than likely, both of you have other friends in the community that you got to know when you were searching for your perfect match. When other people join in on the conversations, it helps to keep things fresh and interesting. All kinds of topics will come up in chat rooms and you’ll meet all types of people. It’ll help give you plenty to talk about later when you’re messaging each other in private again, too.

Four: Talk on the Phone

If you’ve been talking to the same person online long enough for the conversations to begin to get boring, then you should feel comfortable enough to give out your phone number. By talking to each other on the phone some of the time instead of just online, it mixes things up a lot more.

The way you perceive the things you talk about will be different because you’re actually hearing the words in their voice instead of reading it yourself. It gives your conversations a fresh perspective and it’ll help keep things from getting boring. You can even exchange a few text messages throughout the day and skip the online conversations sometimes. This way, the next time you do talk online, it won’t seem so boring.

Five: Use Video Chat

Using video chat is the closest thing to talking to someone in person without actually meeting them. It takes things to a whole new level. It’s almost like being in the same room with the person because they can see your expressions and they’ll see how you react to the things being said. This helps to keep things interesting because it’s very exciting to actually get to see the person that you’re talking to.

In addition, it makes it easier tell if that person seems sincere about your relationship or if they seem to be just stringing you along for some reason. Sometimes, a person’s expression says a lot more than the words they speak. It also lets you see the person so you know for sure that they match their profile information and photo, which in turn helps to reduce the risks of being scammed.

Summary

All relationships need work and you have to put forth some effort into keeping your conversations from getting boring, if you want things to work out between you. That’s another way that online relationships are similar to any other type of bond between couples. If you can manage to keep your online relationship going strong, there’s a good chance that you have met your one true love.

Keeping the conversations interesting and occasionally unpredictable can help to keep your online relationship going strong and it’s really not that hard. You just need to put a little thought into it and use your imagination.

If you sense things are starting to get a little dull, add some excitement to it with one or more of the suggestions above. You’ll see a big difference in the way you communicate when you do. Don’t let your online relationship fall into a boring routine when there are so many different fun and exciting ways to spice things up. It’ll also help to add a bit of mystery to your relationship because your partner won’t know what to expect from you next and that can be a very good thing.


Online dating sites are booming with singles looking for all types of relationships. Meeting online singles is different from meeting people face to face. In a way, it’s easier because you already know a few things about them just from reading the profiles. This makes it a little easier to start up a conversation because you can choose to talk to the people that you have something in common with and ignore the rest.

Another thing that makes meeting online singles easier is the online communities where you can mingle and talk to lots of members in a group setting. Striking up a conversation with someone in a chat room or forums can help you get to know them better. You can move on to private conversations if you hit it off with someone.

If you’re not familiar with online dating, it can be a little intimidating but it’s not as hard as you might think. There are a few things that you should know before joining a dating site that can make your experience a good one. Here are six great tips for meeting online singles

Tip One: Pick the Best Dating Site for You

When you decide to join an online dating site, the first thing that you’ll notice is that there are many of them to choose from. In a way, having so many options is great. It makes it possible to find a dating service that suits you perfectly. However, it can also be a little overwhelming because there are so many choices. How do you pick the right one?

Some dating sites cater to all types of adults while others are created specifically for certain types of people. For example, some sites cater to young adults while others are designed for seniors. There are dating sites that cater to certain religions, sexual preferences, ethnic groups and so forth.  Decide which type of dating site suites you the best. It simply makes it easier to find someone looking for the same things that you are, when you choose a site that matches your age and lifestyle.

Tip Two: Be Yourself

The whole point of joining an online dating site is to find the perfect match for you. However, if you are not being yourself, that’s not going to happen. Keep in mind that eventually, you will meet the person you choose to pursue a relationship with and you don’t want them to discover that you were not completely truthful with them from the beginning.

If you’re a shy person, say so. If you like being the center of attention, don’t be afraid to express this. If you prefer staying home relaxing on the couch instead of going out regularly, don’t pretend you love going out on the town. It may take longer to meet someone that feels the same way you do but being yourself always pays off in the end because the person you end up dating will truly be a good match.

Tip Three: Find the Right Amount of Mystery

When meeting online singles, a little bit of mystery can make things more fun and interesting. However, too much mystery will give off the impression that you’re being dishonest and that you have something to hide. You have to find the right amount of mystery without appearing to be sneaky or dishonest. Provide all of the information that is required for the profile and answer questions that you are directly asked but you don’t always have to volunteer too many things about yourself.

Tip Four: Don’t Get Impatient

Some people join online dating sites with the expectations of meeting someone right away and they end up very disappointed. It’s true that you can meet people online faster but it still takes time to get to know different people. It’s a lot like meeting someone in person. At first impression, they may seem like they have everything you’ve been searching for in a partner but after you get to know them better, you realize, there are a lot of qualities about them that you don’t like.

The same is true when you meet people on dating sites. You may think you have found the perfect match based on the profile but after you get to know them a little better, you may find out that you are better off as friends. That’s the point of talking and getting to know each other better before actually meeting in person.

This is what saves you a lot of time and effort because you don’t have to date someone for a while before discovering that a relationship is simply not going work. Don’t get impatient, keep an open mind and make friends first. Then, you’ll have a better idea if the person is a good match before planning a date. Some of the best matches start out as friendships.

Tip Five: Don’t Let Scammers Scare You Away

Online dating gets mixed reviews. Many people tell stories of how they met their wife or husband from online dating sites and how wonderful their life is. Others tell horror stories of how they got ripped off and swindled out of a lot of money. The fact is that there are a lot of scammers out there and they exist on every site but the number of them will vary depended on which site you use.

For this reason, you have to be careful and take precautions when using an online dating site but don’t let scammers scare you away. There are things that you can do to protect yourself. There are a lot of legitimate singles on these sites looking for someone just like you. Learn how to spot fraud and how to avoid being scammed and you can have a positive experience when meeting online singles.

Tip Six: Don’t Give Up Easily

Not everyone you talk to and meet in person will be Mr. or Mrs. Right. You may have several dates before you find someone you want to continue dating and maybe eventually form a lasting relationship with. If the first few dates don’t work out, start over with someone new. There are thousands of singles out there and one of them is sure to be your perfect match.

Things to Consider

When meeting people online you want to have fun. Avoid taking everything someone says seriously and don’t get upset over little things. If someone offends you, you don’t have to talk to them anymore. If you argue with people and talk about them to others, even if they give you reason, it can make you look bad. You might get the reputation of being over sensitive or hard to get along with and that can make it hard to meet others.

However, if someone is harassing you, then you’ll need to report it to the site management. The same is true if you run into someone that appears to be trying to commit some type of fraudulent activity. The more people you meet, the more chance it is to run into people that you don’t want to associate with but it also opens up many doors in which to find the match of your dreams.

Your attitude has a lot to do with the type of experience you have. Have fun, make new friends and enjoy meeting online singles while searching for that special someone.